Category: Parent Cues

Parent Tools for Talking about COVID19

Parent Tools for Talking about COVID19

The entire world is dealing with something worrisome and unknown. Please know that we are here for you and your family. We are praying for all who have been affected by the outbreak of coronavirus (COVID-19).

Our top priority is your family's health and well-being, as well as that of our community. We understand the concern and uncertainty you may be experiencing surrounding the coronavirus (COVID-19) and are committed to being responsive to the needs of our families and neighbors.

During this time, we may find that our ministry cannot meet in a physical space. This situation may cause our ministries to cancel services, possibly on Sundays and/or Wednesdays. In this circumstance we hope that you will take advantage of the online options we will provide for your families to stay consistent, even if COVID-19 is preventing services from meeting in the church.

What do I say to my child/children?

In times of crisis, there are some things you can say and do that will help your children feel safe:

Weeones:

“I’m here, you’re not alone.” (Listen to their feelings and validate them.)
“Why don’t we draw/color together.” (Observe how they express themselves symbolically.)
“I love watching you play.” (Pay attention to what they mirror, watch how they play and notice changes or regression in their behavior.)
“I am always looking out for you.”
“I’ll help you when you need it.”
"I’ll play with you. I love having time with you.” (Move to their play area or space.
Play is their first language.)
“You are a beautiful, wonderful, child of God.”
“You can know that God is always with you.”
“Even when you feel sad, God loves you.”

Elementary:

“Some things are changing, and that can be tough. But there are some things that will never change. I love you. God loves you. And we can trust God no matter what.”
“This is what I’m feeling right now, how are you doing?”
“Can you put words to what you are thinking or feeling? Even if it doesn’t all make sense, talking about it can help.”
“Do you have any questions for me?”
“This doesn’t make sense to me either. I can understand how this is confusing for you.”
“I am here whenever you need me.”
“Sometimes, scary things happen in our world, but I want you to know that God is always with you. And you can talk to Him anytime.”

Make the Most of Thanksgiving – Parent Cue October 28, 2019

Make the Most of Thanksgiving – Parent Cue October 28, 2019

Holidays are meant to be a break, a time when work and school go on the back burner, teams and clubs have a lull in the schedule (sometimes), families relax and enjoy extra time with the ones they love most. But we all know that holidays more often turn into stress-filled days trying to make everyone happy and counting down the minutes until you can go back to your normal 9 to 5.

This Thanksgiving, make sure you have at least one meaningful (and enjoyable!) moment with your kids. Block out a few hours or a whole day to enjoy age-old family traditions or make new ones with some of our favorite (and simple!) Thanksgiving ideas:

THANKSGIVING SCRAPBOOK. Have your kid pick their favorite family photo from this past year. Paste it to the middle of a scrapbook page and have each family member write what they are most thankful for around the photo. Continue the tradition next year (and the next) by adding one page/photo a year!

THANKSGIVING PUMPKIN. On November 1, place a pumpkin and a Sharpie® marker in the middle of your dinner table. Throughout the month, encourage your family members to write the things they are most thankful for on the pumpkin.

THANKSGIVING TRIAL-RUN. If your last Thursday of November will be a hectic gathering of second cousins and great aunts, plan a mini-feast with just your immediate family on the first Thursday of the month! Have your kid(s) help out in the kitchen as you make smaller portions of your favorite Thanksgiving foods. Don’t forget the pie!

BRANCH OUT. If you are too far from your extended family to celebrate the big day together, make your Thanksgiving extra special by inviting others to join you. Local college students, an elderly neighbor, or even another family you know who is far from extended family are all people who might be needing a big feast.

TURKEY TROT. Many communities have a local fun run on Thanksgiving morning. It’s a great way to get outside and active during a time of year you might usually be confined indoors. If you don’t have a local Turkey Trot, organize one in your neighborhood. Don’t forget to bundle up and stretch!

How to Widen Your Family Circle, Parent Cue Ocotber 21, 2019

How to Widen Your Family Circle, Parent Cue Ocotber 21, 2019

Sometimes it takes another voice to say the same things you are saying to your kid(s) about the most important things in life—just in a different way. That’s what we call “widening the circle.” So, how do you widen your family circle?

Summarized from this article on parentcue.org

1. Think about the adults who are already in your child’s life. If your child won’t talk to you about something, who do you want them to talk to? If your child is in middle school or high school, ask them who they would talk to. Write this person’s name down. It could be a teacher, a family friend, an aunt, a neighbor. Just make sure that the person shares the same vaule as your family does.

2. Invite people that you admire or want to get to know better into your family circle. You can do this by inviting them to dinner, volunteering at school or with your child’s sport’s team.

3. Appreciate and invest in those in your circle.

Encourage them with words like: “How can I pray for you?” “How can I make this relationship easier for you?” “Is there anything I can do to support you better?”

Do something thoughtful, communicate, say thank you, invite them over and build the relationship.

How do you encourage those in your circle? We’d love to hear more!

Parenting October 7, 2019

Parenting October 7, 2019

I saw a meme or post or something that said, ‘stop comparing your b reel to her highlight reel.’ That really resonated with me. Comparing our everyday reality to someone’s carefully chosen posts on Instagram or Facebook can be discouraging. If you’ve ever felt like like you are not doing enough as a parent or that you are not as good as another parent, we suggest reading this post by Brianna Bell at the New York Times.

Katherine Reynolds Lewis, a certified parent educator and author of “The Good News About Bad Behavior” contends that self-compassion is an important trait to exhibit as a parent. “Accept yourself and appreciate the way that you are and what that brings for your children,” she said. “Because if you don’t accept and love yourself, it’s harder to accept and love your kids when they’re flawed and imperfect.”

Journey to Courage – Parent Cue October 2019

Journey to Courage – Parent Cue October 2019

In a pivotal moment in a movie most dads would probably rather not admit seeing, the Prince of fictional Genovia has this advice for his daughter, the Princess (yes, as in Princess Diaries). On her sixteenth birthday, her father writes these words:

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all. From now on you’ll be traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be. The key is to allow yourself to make the journey.”

Almost every boy and girl dreams of becoming a hero: a prince or princess, or a superhero. We all want to be part of a bigger story, something that matters. To do that doesn’t mean we need to be royalty or part of the Justice League, but it might require that we find some heroic qualities in our everyday lives . . .

CONTINUE READING ON THE PARENT CUE BLOG

Stretching Faith

Stretching Faith

Faith is trusting what you can’t see because of what you can. My husband and I have learned over the course of our lives that God will provide in ways we need but don’t often predict. And when we wait on Him, the outcome is better than we can create on our own.

We want our kids to learn this same practice in their own lives. We want them to learn the practical application of trusting in what you can’t see because of what you can.

When we invite our kids to participate with us as we exercise our own faith, we allow them to take part in a story that helps them develop their own faith.

Where is God asking you to trust Him? How is He inviting you to trust what you can’t see because of what you can?

Read the entire story at parentcue.org

5 Parenting Principles -Parent Cue August 26, 2019

5 Parenting Principles -Parent Cue August 26, 2019

We think there are five principles that will help you as a parent navigate through a variety of different seasons. And that if you begin to instill them into your parenting, your relationship with your children, and with the other people they need in their lives, will move in a better direction to parent beyond your own capacity.

Check out the article here